Mastering your emotions with positivity
Our emotions play a very important role in our lives and sometimes if we haven't mastered what triggers them, it's very hard to control them, or in fact stabilise ourselves.
I must admit I do let my emotions run wild sometimes, but being a woman can be difficult especially when my hormones are causing chaos every month.
How many of you ladies can relate to your emotions causing mayhem on occasions?
How many of you cry often, but don't know why? How many of you laugh and just can't stop laughing? Each and every one of us battles emotions daily, whether they are the result of being happy, or sad.
Managing your emotions is important for us to do well in life, whether that is achieving a top goal, or dream job. We need to be focused and prepared for the hard work. But, what is going to keep us focused and working hard? Knowing when our emotions are getting the better of us.
It's vital that we know what emotion is our most present emotion? For some, it’s stress, worry, or anger. For others, it’s joy, passion or excitement.
The best thing to remember is that we all have a choice. We can choose what our everyday emotion will be. We can decide which everyday emotion is going to help us thrive through our life journey, and we must be able to determine whether or not our current everyday emotion is doing us any justice.
If our daily emotion is negative, full of worry, hurt, doubt stress, or anger, we limit ourselves and our potential. We are not attracting people to us with those emotional states. We might be pushing some people away, or even drawing in others who are also angry or full of doubt.
We have such a range of emotions that we can choose from. So it's for us to make the right choice. The choice is to make sure the negative emotions are short-lived. Of course no one is saying that we can't shift to negative emotions on occasions, but in order to attract positive people with positive attributes, you too have to be emotionally balanced and positive.
Now, many of you may have had moments of anger, hurt or grieved over the years. That could possibly have been through losing a job, not being financially stable, losing your home, feeling depressed, not being able to cope as a single parent, breaking away from a relationship, or even hating your job. But when you find yourself grieving for someone you are about to lose, it is one of the hardest moments you'll ever face. This is something I have recently had to face. This is a situation where you find yourself challenged to remain in control. So many thoughts, so many memories, so many emotions, but what matters is the art of staying calm.
We must remember that we are all destined to pass on sooner or later. But, what's important is that we focus on celebrating a person’s life and how they made us feel.
Mourning is filled with such negative emotions and tears, which can sometimes cause even more pain. We can control how long we stay suffering. The pain we feel in this circumstance isn’t a choice, but the emotional suffering is. This is where the choice aspect comes in, you have the choice to replace your sadness with happiness, your anger with joy, your doubt with passion, your stresses with hope and your fear by becoming fearless.
I am currently reading a book which was recommended to me as a good read and whilst I am still only a quarter in, I have selected a piece, which corresponds to this blog.
An excerpt taken from, The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle.
"Emotion: The Body's Reaction to Your Mind"
What about emotions? I get caught up in my emotions more than I do in my mind.
Mind, in the way I use the word, is not just thought. It includes your emotions as well as all unconscious mental-emotional reactive patterns. Emotion arises at the place where mind and body meet. It is the body's reaction to your mind - or you might say, a reflection of your mind in the body. For example, an attack thought or a hostile thought will create a build-up of energy in the body that we call anger. The body is getting ready to fight. The thought that you are being threatened, physically or psychologically, causes the body to contract, and this is the physical side of what we call fear. Research has shown that strong emotions even cause changes in the biochemistry of the body. These biochemical changes represent the physical or material aspect of the emotion. Of course, you are not usually conscious of all your thought patterns, and it is often only through watching your emotions that you can bring them into awareness.
The more you are identified with your thinking, your likes and dislikes, judgments and interpretations, which is to say the less present you are as the watching consciousness, the stronger the emotional energy charge will be, whether you are aware of it or not. If you cannot feel your emotions, if you are cut off from them, you will eventually experience them on a purely physical level, as a physical problem or symptom. "
The book is intended to be a guide for day-to-day living and stresses the importance of living in the present moment and avoiding thoughts of the past or future.
Life is way too short to be stuck in darkness, negative emotions and fear. Not only does it drain you, it contributes to you loosing yourself.
So, today what emotions do you choose?